21 Day Novena For Last, Middle and Only Child: Day 15
This Novena Runs From 16th October to 5th November
DAY ONE FOR THE ONLY CHILD.
DAY 15 or 1. Pray against the spirit of “little emperor syndrome,"
which is a situation in which the parents lavish their love, attention, and resources on one child, and as a result, the child becomes spoiled and behaves like a “little emperor.” Pray that your child does not end up as a spoilt child.
Do you feel like you are noticing the characteristics of a spoiled child? Do you feel like your sweet child turned into an ungrateful child? Have you ever wondered how to unspoiled a child… or how to unspoiled your child?
I know that this can be hard because you don’t even realize that it is happening and then BAM… you hear the disrespect in your child’s voice and realize that you need to STOP doing that for your child!
When you begin to see that your children are displaying the same spoiled behavior as ungrateful children, you know that it’s time to teach your kids how to be grateful again. Before we begin, I do want to point out that there is no reason to feel guilty. You are here because you are ready to help your spoiled child get back to that kind, loving child that you know they are inside. To be honest, it probably started because you do love your child and you thought you were helping.
HOW TO UNSPOIL A CHILD
1. BE CONSISTENT
Before we begin, let me say that with everything, consistency is key in helping your spoiled child to be unspoiled. It’s worth repeating…Consistency is key.
If you can stick to your rules, you will see much quicker results. This is the key to success. If you want to know the truth about this abatement, ask teachers.
2. USE THE “WHEN–>>THEN” METHOD.
When you ____, then you ____. (When you have done your chores, then you can use your phone.)
You are essentially giving your child a choice. You are not yelling. You are not upset. You are simply letting your child choose
If they want to play, they need to finish cleaning. “When you finish cleaning, then you can play.”
If your child wants to have a snack, he has to eat his vegetables. “When you finish your vegetables, then you can have a snack.”
If she wants to go to the park, she needs to have her bed made. “When you make your bed, then you can go to the park.”
If they want to play a game, they have to finish their homework. “When you have finished your work, then you can play your video games.”
When you have filled up your reward jar (for being kind), then we can go out for ice cream.
Even though they only have a limited number of choices, it is still a choice. You are giving your child the power and they will decide how they want to proceed.
3. SET EXPECTATIONS.
Give your child a run-down of the day, if possible. Let them know what to expect.
Example: “We will be going to the supermarket today. You will not be buying anything. If you ask for something while we are there, I will be taking away electronics for the remainder of the day.
I will have to do this because I am telling you RIGHT NOW that we are going there for groceries and nothing else. Do you understand?” You are merely telling them ahead of time and asking them to respect what you say.
4. STOP BUYING UNNECESSARY THINGS FOR YOUR CHILD
Your child might ask you for something, or you might purchase un-needed stuff because they are. Asking. learn to say NO without an apology.
5. TEACH THEM TO BUY THINGS FOR THEMSELVES.
The value of hard work should never be overlooked. If your child wants something, tell them how much it costs and let them work hard to make that money. How wonderful they will feel when they can accomplish that on their own! They are so proud!
6. TEACH YOUR CHILD TO GIVE.
If your child gets a new toy, have them donate one to someone else (not a broken one or less-valuable one, but one that someone else will love.) Your child may become overwhelmed with too many toys, just like we become overwhelmed with too much stuff.
TIME MATTERS MORE.
Spend more time doing things with your child. You don’t need to “buy” things for them. Just spend time with them. If they act entitled or ungrateful, talk to them. Sit them down and explain it to them. then follow through with a consequence. Never use empty threats.
PRAYER 1 : O God the Father of mankind, who hast given unto me these my children, and committed them to my charge to bring them up for Thee, and to prepare them for eternal life: help me with Thy heavenly grace, that I may be able to fulfil this most sacred duty and stewardship. Teach me both what to give and what to withhold; when to reprove and when to forbear; make me to be gentle, yet firm; considerate and watchful; and deliver me equally from the weakness of indulgence, and the excess of severity; and grant that, both by word and example, I may be careful to lead them in the ways of wisdom and true piety, so that at last I may, with them, be admitted to the unspeakable joys of our true home in heaven, in the company of the blessed Angels and Saints. Amen. Listen to the audio version
PRAYER 2: O Heavenly Father, I commend my children to Thy care. Be Thou their God and Father; and mercifully supply whatever is lacking in me through frailty or negligence. Strengthen them to overcome the corruptions of the world, whether from within or without; and deliver them from the secret snares of the enemy. Pour Thy grace into their hearts, and strengthen and multiply in them the gifts of Thy Holy Spirit, that they may daily grow in grace and in knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ; and so, faithfully serving Thee here, may come to rejoice in Thy presence hereafter. Amen Listen to the audio version
2 Timothy 3:1-7
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DAY 15 PRAYERS :
Lord, give me new eyes. Help me see each challenge as an opportunity to train my children toward right thinking and right living. Proverbs 1:8 says, “My child, listen when your father corrects you. Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction”. Lord, this is a reminder that it is my job to instruct. I shouldn’t expect my children to understand right and wrong. Lord, help me not to let opportunities for training slip by because I don’t want to take the time to teach my children what is right and good. Help me to remember that the small things I teach my children now will be the foundation for all to come in their lives.
Lord, give me a new attitude. Remind me that any moment of the day can be a “start over” moment and a chance for an attitude adjustment. My bad attitude comes when I want my way or when I feel others are intruding in my comfort or peace. As Ephesians 4:2 says, “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love,”. I know, Lord, that it’s impossible to be humble, gentle, patient and loving and have a bad attitude at the same time. Change me on the inside, Lord, so I can change my mind and actions.
Lord, give me a new focus. Help me to pluck any worries from my mind and place them firmly in your hands. I know when I’m looking at worries and fear I’m not looking at You. I also know when I’m looking at You my worries and fear become a blur. Instead, help me to be thankful for all the ways You’ve already shown up in my job as a parent. Help me to trust that You’ll be faithful in the future, too. As Philippines 4:6 says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.” I thank You that my focus on You will change my heart and my thoughts for the better.
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